Our Approach

Ann Arbor Couples Therapy is for you if you and your partner keep circling around the same few issues with no progress. Arguments flare up dangerously or result in cold withdrawal. Your conflict conversations get stalled with no resolution. You feel distant and afraid that you don’t love each other like you used to. Your emotional and physical intimacy has faded.

We believe that you are seeking couples therapy, not because there is something wrong with you as individuals, but because you are feeling deprived and ineffective in getting what you need.

In trying to get what you need from each other, you may have suppressed important thoughts and feelings or become hypercritical, thus provoking your partner’s defensiveness. In either case, communication of needs is distorted and has to be clarified.

Efforts to clarify communication can reveal vicious circles or stalemated interactions. Our therapy acts to break up the gridlock and open up dialogue on how your respective positions are mutually depriving and frustrating.

Our therapy is grounded in the here and now. Personal and developmental history is informative, but what counts is how you act today and tomorrow. We are very active in therapy: making suggestions, giving advice, and assigning homework. We want you to learn practical tools and techniques that you can use to make immediate and long lasting improvements in your relationship.

Specialty Areas

In addition to the more common conflict areas, we have extensive experience working successfully with couples in these special problem areas:

  • Communication
  • Infidelity
  • Sexual issues
  • Emotional and physical intimacy
  • Internet and other social media use impacting a relationship
  • Premarital counseling
  • Blended family issues
  • Issues unique to same sex couples
  • We also have a Spanish speaking therapist on staff